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blogger and communications specialist I promote gardeners and historians...timeless professions.

I thought I saw my friend Regina Rolle

IMG_7246the other day.   I was so sure that I started looking online to see if she had moved back to the area.  I haven’t talked to her since soon after 9 11, when she called me to see how things were over here in upstate NY.  She had moved out to Phoenix to become a Montessori teacher after we worked together in a doctor’s office.

Since our last call, I think maybe we touched base once on Facebook.  I started thinking about how much I hoped she was back in town, how much fun it would be to go to Friendlys again with her and have a really gritty conversation about life over turkey and mashed potatoes.  I thought about how real and how color blind she was and most importantly, how hopeful.

I recalled helping Regina on a few of her projects.  She decided one year to create and host a party for children at the Ithaca Southside Community Center.  Many people came and it was a success.

I thought about how she had lost her parents when she was just a child and how sad that made her feel, how different perhaps her life might have been.  Regina was not bitter, she easily could have been.

Not only was she not bitter, I thought she had a wisdom in seeing things most people miss.  She told me once how sad it is that the  black folk and white folk have so much damaging conflict.  She thought it ironic since they have so much in common:  economic disenfranchisement among many things.

Regina wanted to be a teacher.  She loved children and loved taking them under her wing.  She was good at it, often babysitting a relative’s four little ones who had lost their mother.  So Regina decided to go back to school in mid-life to become a Montessori teacher.

I remember her packing up…going through her things…what to take, what to dump. I looked on amazed that she had old Tiger Beats!  She hated to throw them out and for some reason, I think she insisted on taking them with her.  I like to think it was because they represented a happy time for her.

My husband and I gave Regina’s relative a computer we weren’t using.  Soon after we gave it to her cousin, it died.  I apologized to her later…she said, “Oh no, that is ok, because that was the beginning of more and better computers for my cousin.”

We had so many laughs and heart to hearts at the office where we worked, that one year, on my birthday, I was surprised that of all the people who forgot, she did.  But then, toward the end of my day, Regina showed up, gift in hand.  It was the coffee mug pictured here.  I was delighted.  I get it out often when I want to put a smile on my face.

It never occurred to me I would not see Regina again.  So when I thought I saw her three weeks ago, I had to call her.  I’m way too late, she passed on in 2012!.  She was only in her late 50s, a sure sign that only the good die young.

 

 

 

The Dutch Roots of Ithaca’s Dey Street

Source: The Dutch Roots of Ithaca’s Dey Street

CoRT Thinking

CoRT Thinking…this blog is by my friend and writing colleague, Kathy Mapes. I like this technique and she does a great job of explaining it.

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CoRT Thinking–

One cold Saturday in March, I partook of a workshop led by Claire Perez, a member of my Lansing Writers’ Group, at Lansing Community Library.  When we made it to the audience participation part, she had us go through three writing exercises.   The CoRT Thinking exercise is the one I’m sharing with you below.  Claire ran into this exercise at an education conference.

In the website, “CorT Thinking Online, 60 Lessons in Thinking,”an Irish-based registered multimedia company called Devine media, explains the steps in Edward de Bono’s process.

de Bono designed this system as a means of practical thinking that leads to practical solutions, not so much as a way to demonstrate intelligence.  He thinks emotions are positive but that they should never take the place of “good thinking.”  He feels that the showing off of intelligence often does not lead to practical solutions to problems.  I’m not…

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#Communications Applied: Goals are CRITICAL!

This is an excellent post by Holly Munn…in life, as in communications, goal setting is critical!  Without goals, in my opinion, no matter how small, it is hard to see where we are going and why we are spending our time on things.

A lack of goals reminds me of turning on Facebook and slipping from one story or link to another only to come back, out of the sticky web, an hour later to ask myself, now where am I? what did I want to accomplish today?

To access Holly’s post, click below.  It is titled:  Tactics are sexty, goals are critical.

https://hollymunn.com/2017/03/31/tactics-are-sexy-goals-are-critcial/

Between the then and now

img_5765there can be few sadder sites than to stand helpless and watch your beloved dog have a seizure

to watch his uncontrollable flayling and the frothy foam and say gently from the corner of the yard, Macadew you can do this, we love you

to pray…to hope…to wish that the first time, it had just been the bad milk…but knowing now, it probably wasn’t.

and what to do with that…we hope that the medicine will control what nature is willfully allowing and to love with pure abandon

the big brown doe eyes…the leaps and bounds…the power in the gazelle…the boundless majesty

Macadew…between now and then, everyday a treasure…may there be many

-soulful living – side by side with the power of nature

claireaperez@gmail.com

 

 

 

to bridge the space

there are two things
which I have found to 

bridge the space between dusk and dawn

between alone and not so alone

they whistle, these two

within the confines of their silent passage

to  solitary souls who

join their ears in unison to hear them:

the train and the radio!

THE PIZZA

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You wake up and you are retired.  That is how life is.  And you are thinking pizza, the kind you would make if you had the recipe for the perfect crust.

Only a few people on the planet have that recipe, the one for the perfect crust. You had it once in New York City but you can’t remember where or in what decade.

You know though that the pizza shop you discovered on the way to your wife’s job has the crust recipe. You also think, on this particular day, that you really want pizza.  Not too much cheese (the cholesterol, the gallbladder), a little sausage, a little pepperoni, some veggies … you can see the perfect pie and so you leave early for your destination to order it.

A bright young man takes your order…he pays attention, he gets it, as they say.  You have an uplifting talk and proceed to pick your wife up.  The pizza tantalizes you with its smell, you only glimpsed it as it slid from the wood tray to the box, but you saw its crispy edges.

You reach for your cell phone, call your wife (Still in her office), and share the good news: “Hurry up, I’ve got the pizza.”

Home, you open the box…what a picture…a mandala Mona Lisa.  Grateful, you think of the young man, the art, and how great it is to get that one perfect pizza pie.

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#communication applied: one image & semiotic theory

I am always struck by the power of an image…it needs little explanation.  On my blog, I align one image with each post.  Due to time constraints, some images are more relevant than others.

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Who is muted today in our society? world?

In Communications, we want people to do something or think something.  What a task?  So many pre-existing filters exist and it is hard to get through them.  Images can sometimes strike our audience in ways that verbiage can not.  The popularity of Instagram is a testimony to this opinion.

The  image in this post could be interpreted a number of ways: the question is:  who is muted in our society? This is an instance where the Semiotic theory in Communications is useful.

The Semiotics definition from the Oxford English Dictionary states:

“The science of communication studied through the interpretation of signs and symbols as they operate in various fields, esp. language (see semiotic n.  for parallel form). Cf. semiology n.

The above is not an icononic symbol, but rather it signifies that a large entity, perhaps alien, as alien as outerspace or as one human paradigm to another, is forcing, through their power, another entity, to stay quiet.This…despite that entities willfulness.

These are some recent headlines on the web that make the sketch a good metaphor for  its the use of power over rather than power with :

New York Times: Threats and Vandalism Leave American Jews on Edge in Trump Era
By ALAN BLINDER, SERGE F. KOVALESKI and ADAM GOLDMAN

Politico:  NRCC chairman: ‘Bullying’ protesters won’t hurt us in 2018 By Rachael Bade

Fox News:  Trump administration pushes back signing new travel ban, official says

In each case, the report indicates a threat.  One group trying to assert power over another.  The responses of the less powerful are not documented in the headlines, but while they may not currently be muted, it is  obvious to this news observer that we are heading in a direction of silencing them.

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What Dreams May Come…inspired by my husband w/love

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What Dreams May Come

bloom where you are planted

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